Stay Unbothered, Stay Powerful
The strength is in you, you just gotta find it
Have you ever find yourself draining out on sh*ts that take up way too much of your time and you tell yourself,
“It’s time that I should stop.”
Well, it’s time to take a step back when you know you’ve given too much — more than what you thought you could handle. I must admit, it takes a whole lot of courage to drop certain things. All because you don’t wanna let go and I understand that. As time goes by, we need to clear our minds and kinda start afresh. What do you think?
I’ve read a few articles on staying unbothered before beginning writing my version. It got me thinking about how I go through these problems, like everyone else.
When I notice that my plate could no longer give space, this is where I ponder and reflect. Are these concerns are worth my time? These six pointers that we’ll be discussing today could help you in staying unbothered. Buckle in ya'll, we’re about to go on an adventure!
1. Do What Makes You Happy
There, I said it. It’s as easy as it sounds but, how can we conquer this?
Be real with me, we all have been in a position where we’re stressed out and mentally drained from life. Let’s face it, it throws you under the bus sometimes.
Finding a medium to make yourself happy is important. It will motivate you to come back stronger, allowing you to face the journey once again.
As for me, I enjoy getting my nails, hair and lashes done. It definitely makes me happy knowing that I can make myself look good. Doing what makes you happy can come in many forms.
You like gaming? Get yourself a new game to play. You like collectibles? Go get one! You like taking a walk in the park for a breath of fresh air, get your shoes on and get going guys! See, finding something or somewhere to be to make yourself happy could help. It might distract you for a little, but you deserve it. Life needs a distraction sometimes, learn to have fun, you.
2. Find someone who’s genuine in giving advice
We all need that person. Even the strongest person we know needs that. If you know someone who is genuine towards you, count yourselves lucky. Many people are still on the search for their person.
This person could be anyone. Your mum, dad, partner, colleague or even your neighbour! You need to find someone that you’re confident to trust.
Struggles come and go but your go-to person will be there through it all to watch you succeed. Approaching struggles can be tough, (yeah no sh*t) but getting genuine advice could widen your perspectives from many opportunities you never see coming.
I have my go-to person for different situations that I face in life. I have my mum, my siblings, my partner, his mum, his sister and the list goes on… But one thing that these people have in common is that they’re genuine in their advice. I've learned many things from these different people.
People will bring you down in some aspects and with the advice given in such situations, put them to use. These people aren’t worth your time and it’s definitely another way to stay unbothered.
It irritates them knowing that you don’t bother. It’s not even a win-win situation, you’ve already won — tough times don’t last, tough people, do.
3. Focus on yourself and your desired goals
Keep your head high and strive for success. Focus on the things that matter to you and the one’s that don’t bring benefit, throw them out the window!
I know someone who focuses on others way more than himself and that’s worrying. You see, when you're too attentive to people or things that are unnecessary, it could be an obstruction and that’s scary, isn’t it? Many don’t realise this until others point it out.
It’s not wrong to worry about others, but at times, you gotta worry about yourself first. Focus on you and only you because if you see the flaws that can be polished, it’s a high chance for you to work on it, right? Once you’ve got the rhythm, find a balance between focusing on yourself and others.
Ah, goals. Everybody has them. How does focusing on yourself and your goals can make me achieve the want I desire in life? Let’s sink in deeper!
If you pay attention to yourself, the probabilities of you achieving your goals are high. Like I’ve mentioned, focus on the things that you want to make a change in and see yourself driven to your desired goals. When we make a goal, it means that we want to succeed in it, yeah? This means that triumph is on your way and you gotta do is get your head in the game.
4. Trust the process of everything
When you hit rock bottom, all you want to do is release. Don’t let go, hold on. As cliche as it sounds, I believe that everything happens for a reason.
When the break-up slaps you in the face so hard, you gotta know that that relationship was never meant for you. Someone somewhere will be with you to bring eternal happiness.
As the saying goes, “time heals everything” and it’s true. You gotta incorporate the positives that you do daily to heal yourself. You're gonna regain your confidence back. Like we discussed, life is pretty awful sometimes and trust me, it doesn’t last!
I immerse myself sometimes with the thoughts in my head and I question: “Why do certain things happen? What’s the reason behind it?”. I mean… Do you ever have those thoughts and needed answers?
Well, my friend, I’m sorry to burst your bubble but I, unfortunately, do not have the answers. But…
Think about it though, will it be a major concern in the next 24 hours? The next week, month or even a year? If not, let nature take its course. If the situation continues to find it’s way to bother you, go back to my previous points to get some inspiration! After all, we need a breather sometimes.
Hey, to trust the process of everything, you gotta trust yourself, too.
5. Don’t compare yourself to others
You’ve heard that right, do not compare yourself to others, ya’ll! It is so important not to do so because you’ll end up scrutinizing yourself and that’s not worth it!
Everyone who walks the earth has their own pace and time to bloom. I can’t stress this enough because I admit, I do this too. (whoops…) But I’m getting there! I’m at that stage where my friends are getting either engaged or married. Mind you, some of them are applying for a house, too! I had no clue if I was behind my friends or if something’s going wrong with my life.
I sought advice from my genuine person and it made me realise one thing: I will get where I need to be when the time comes. It annoys me whenever I compare myself to others because then I’ll try to compete to get to where they are and it’s not fair.
When we work on things that matter and focusing to better ourselves, we’ll step foot in the places we want to be. We all have different capabilities and unique strengths that represent us. Do yourselves a favour, don’t compare yourselves to others. It’s daunting and you definitely do not deserve that. We all don’t.
6. Please yourself for YOU
Honestly, I feel like this point speaks to me the most. “Please yourself for you”. Well, if you’re doing something that pleases you, chances are, you are winging it. Ever wondered how?
We live to please others and not gonna lie, I do that too! (blegh…) The key takeaway from this is, the more you try your hardest to please people, you’re gonna end up disappointed. Trust me, I’ve been there.
Here’s the catch: you can’t please everyone. And that sucks. But it’s okay!
Whenever you’re doing something, and you actually find joy, go ahead, invest more time in it. It’s part of doing things that make you happy and not giving two-sh*ts to what others have to say.
Look, not everyone is gonna like you and the truth always hurts. But you gotta have your own back honey, you’re gonna be POWERFUL. Say it with me, POWERFUL. (Damn, look at you go!)
You’re the director of your own life and you get to decide what to do. Don’t let others bring you down because you can’t please them. You are so much better than that.
You’re walking this earth to make your mark, don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. At the end of the day, we’re all somebody to someone. Live your life to the fullest and have no regrets! As awful as life can be, it can be a beautiful one, too.
This concludes…
I want you (and me, hehe) to live a bold, courageous, and a graceful life for it will bring us perpetual happiness. It can be a rollercoaster ride, but they don’t last forever, it’s only a matter of time for us to get over and done with.
Until then, let us all take a pointer each and make the best of everything that life has to offer us. We’re all in great hands. Take one step at a time and trust yourself, and the process, too! And regardless, we are all gonna get to where we will be, with time.
’Til next time we will speak. Be bold, brave, and take care! ✨
